What has really the world come with nowadays? Everywhere endless arguments, with nil outcome. Why is it happening? Ever wondered? Let’s create some hypothesis. Maybe because of the stunted or rigid attitude of beings toward each other or maybe the word “no acceptance” has hurdled the sense of understanding, what others try to convey.
Communication has many ways, thoughts can be transferred by words, expressions and body language etc. It all depends on one’s psyche and intention with what they are listening. They are either listening to understand or usually they listen to move to the next point and pass forward without understanding the subject. Keeping in mind nowadays mentality, people usually search for the place or person, where they would have listened with an intent to be understood. The one who has the true intention to understand never face the complication in conquering any of the discussions, conversations and not even in connecting with relations.
It has become the trend to win the conversation without realizing what actually is to be conveyed. They think of only winning the arguments, of only leading the race of becoming an answering machine. The mentality has been developed that, many people think, they can only survive when they would be able to slap or bash the other person by words. This trend is demolishing human relations as they focus more on the reply which has to give rather than on the subject. Mostly they react in the wrong way to the point being said due to the lack of input on processing the words and because of directly responding. Besides that, every being is behaving the same but still, every individual complains about not being understood.
Being a member of the family, everyone experiences irrelevant quarrels. Whether it be husband and wife or children and parents, they usually don’t understand each other’s argument. They create the space of ego in their mind and don’t let the words pass through. In case of husband and wife, where listening and understanding is must, they become deaf and pretend as if the words are too complicated to swallow. Especially in eastern parts of the world, when the wife asks her husband to proceed with her career so he feels ashamed without understanding her intention of helping the family and becoming a pillar. Same is for the child and parents. After listening to the child they still try to impose their views on child and start narrating them their own stories.
Religious discussions never end. The religion which solves the problem of others doesn’t seem to resolve itself. It doesn’t want to resolve itself or people are creating the rigidity? Of course, people are culprits of religion. Personally, I start a religious argument with a question, “will you agree if I prove my point or if mine has a validity of references?” Every time I face blank expressions and no to my question. This is the reason why many wise people have left this quarrel-discussion, as have I, as they consider it as hammering of head on the wall. They usually follow the religion, faith or any of the actions in which they are born and believe in what they have been fed.
In these cases the reason is the same. Everyone has set his or her replies according to his or her belief and doings. They simply listen with the intention to reply the same answer rather than understanding the words, consequences and what exactly has happened this time. They have idealized their intentions in a way that the only husband can only work or contribute, the parent is always right, ones religious belief should always be dominant on other and harlots can never have a pure soul. There are possibilities of proving all of these intentions to be strong which has to be understood by the blocked minds.
In order to avoid all such distractions, humans need to adopt synergy which means compromise and adjustment in any situation. Mindsets need to be changed, everyone should create a bridge and open the ways to pass the words effectively in his or her mind in order to understand the other person. It’s a bitter truth that the gaps and space condense with time and become impossible to break. Life as a whole is a game of intentions when one’s intention is flexible to adjust in any situation, then anything can be easily understood without any hurdle.
Mental intentions need to be changed from replying to the understanding of gestures being conveyed!