The Art of Listening

“Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” Stephen R. Covey.  When I was a child, I lived two lives. The first in the daytime, a life of, “Good Morning, rise and shine! It’s time to get up! Bacon and eggs and pancakes downstairs! Who can get

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A Listening Ear

Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. I read a very interesting Igbo (one of the three major ethnic groups in Nigeria) poem sometime ago. Part of it

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Shipwreck

As the young boy washed from the ocean onto the shore of the hidden tropical island with beautiful white sands, a group of natives came up to him. ‘‘This boy is alone!’’ said a man with a feather hat and long staff covered with deep marks and burns. As the Chief came from the village

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Critical thinking: The essential app

For how long has humanity been mistaken the strength of the sword for the skill of the wielder? True power rests not on the weapon, but on the hand that handles it: How could we otherwise explain the fact that even when given the same opportunities, some people thrive, and some people don’t? How could

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The importance of using resources meaningfully

Sometimes it seems genuinely surprising and fascinating how accurately one sentence can reflect the essence of our life. When looking more closely at the expression of Muhammad Yunus, it becomes clear that it is not so much about technology as about us, people. And if you find this idea hard to believe, let’s try to

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Is education a right or a privilege? 

Education is the process or art of imparting knowledge, skill and judgment. Right according to the Meriam Webster dictionary is something that a person is or should be morally or legally allowed to have, get or do while privilege on the other hand is a peculiar benefit, advantage, or favour; a right not ENJOYED by

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Choose Bravery and Hope

I see Alan Kurdi’s body lying on the sand and wonder what his parents were thinking. That 3771 people had died trying to cross the Mediterranean sea in 2015. That people were dying each day in Syria from barrel bombs and toxic gases. That people were being kidnapped and tortured to death. That they might

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Proper listening: a fosterable lifeline

“Were you even listening?” Laura asked her mother with eyes blazing with surprise and annoyance. “Erm… Yeah. You were saying…,” came Tara’s feeble reply. She had been listening quite well when her daughter approached her and gently requested for a discussion as she was relaxing on the backyard swing that cool afternoon. She was glad

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Why We Don’t Listen in Free Societies

Stephen R. Covey, an American author, once wrote, “Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” I think he’s absolutely right, but perhaps not for the reason you may think. I don’t think it’s because we are desperate to deliver a reply. Rather, I believe it is

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Why we care about the library in Leipzig

One can simply attack a topic, dissect it, agree, disagree and state a point of view. Or, one can slowly get closer to it by going through a back door with an open mind and with the intention to stretch the level of thinking. French writer Victor Hugo was loved by the people and despised

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Hearing is not Listening

Effective communication is one of the skills people strive most to achieve. An individual who has the ability to communicate properly becomes a valuable asset. Not only does it allow others to easily understand your communication, it also creates an emotional relationship with your audience. Yes, it is true…people love communication masters. However, most people

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Children of Our Soul

We name our pets and call them “fur children.”  We submit our creations to public scrutiny and call them our babies and beg others to be gentle with them.  You don’t have to be a pet owner or a writer or artist to understand that feeling.  Everyone has a dream, and it takes a lot

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The Priceless Property of Engagement

“Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” – Stephen R. Covey I disagree; Covey’s generalized assumption betrays in himself the same quote-unquote flaw in the human condition that he fears plagues others. Intent is a subjective facet of the subconscious and in claiming to understand intent,

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Listening vs Responding, the intricacies of conversations

Conversing is humanity’s most refined tool for making, breaking and enhancing our relationships. Having to engage in small talk between a work colleague, a stranger or family member is like walking across a delicate tightrope; there is a constant effort needed to stabilize a conversation throughout, achieved more so through active response than active listening

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Two Birds, One Stone

It’s a no brainer, I totally agree. I mean why do you think that people in relationships fight? Huh? They just won’t care to understand each other and the matter at hand. All they care about is telling each other how they are feeling. Hitting up one with that “first of all, I’m not the

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Education- a right not privilege

“Education is a human right with immense power to transform. On its foundation rest the cornerstones of freedom, democracy and sustainable development.” An inspirational, impactful and motivational quote by Kofi Annan is very clear and direct in its motive. A person who is not just literate but has gained valued education would focus on the

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What has the opening of a school door got to do with the closing of a prison?

Shakuntala Devi said and I quote “education is not just about going to school and getting a degree. It is about widening your knowledge and absorbing the truth about life”. According to Merriam- Webster, a school can be defined as an organization that provides instruction: such as an institution for the teaching of children, a

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The Incredible Injustice of Turkey’s Continued Denial of the Armenian Genocide

The Armenian genocide occurred a century ago, but the continued denial of it by the Turkish government still has consequences. As Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” On April 24, 1915 Ottoman Turkish authorities arrested 200 Armenian intellectuals and business leaders across Western Armenia (present day Eastern Turkey).

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Pandora box of uncertainty

Stephen R. Covey’s quotation is indeed a pragmatic insight into human being’s innate behavior. Starting from me, most people get annoyed by such kind of act. After a long tiring commendable argument to convince someone, I end up facing another insurmountable counter-argument which fades up my hope of changing his outlook on the subject matter.

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