“Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” – Stephen R. Covey People ‘listen’ with the aim of replying instead of understanding. Sometimes they may want to cut the conversation short, so they make it look like they understand so they can move on; they say ‘no, yeah, I totally get it.’ Bullshit. Firstly, it’s not
Month: October 2018
Dispelling the Self-absorption Myth: Purpose in Listening
“Most people don’t listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” A few days ago, my colleague and I were discussing “dead” languages. I was nodding along, almost furiously, excited to broach the sort of topic that comes up maybe once a decade. He was obviously well-read and quick to
Would you listen?
If there is one skill that is seen as an essential regardless of time and trend, many would have proposed the art of speaking. It is true in the sense that your daily life starts with a “Good morning” and ends with a “Goodnight”. The ability to initiate, express, and maintain your conversation in a
“Home is where the heart is” : The Worst of Heartbreaks
“you have to understand, that no one puts their children in a boat unless the water is safer than the land” Poetry: a multifaceted feat used to give human thought a body. With this vessel, it can transcend geographical borders and travel the world. Words have the power to be uniquely interpreted based on personal
Technology: Salvation or destruction?
To me, technology is like any animal or plant. Each company is constantly in competition with the others, working to adapt and evolve to make their product the biggest and shiniest to attract their prey, the prey being us humans. Technology infects us like a virus, it takes over our schools, it invades our own
Most people don’t listen with an intent to understand, they listen with an intent to reply.” Stephen Covey. Do you agree?
I agree. It doesn’t matter whether people listen or not. That is because, end of the day, they already have a response ready. And why is that? Because long before people start to communicate, the purpose of communication has already been determined. Let’s start from the start. When we are going for an interview, we
Jonah
My name is Jonah. I live on the uninhabited island of Neverland. I suspect that it’s somewhere off the coast of the Caribbean but, truly, I don’t know where it is. My life is simple; I wake up, tend to my crops, collect firewood, build household objects, and then go to sleep. How I got
Conversing Minds
Conversation is usually a form of communication where we express our minds to others. The conversation goes on interestingly, if there is a mutual understanding of each other’s words. I am not talking about the conversation that is done to discuss the experiences of any scientific study or an experiment or any historical event or
Indistinguishable
He was only a young calf when he first saw them. Tall, glorious and majestic. His mother had left, and he was alone. He was entranced. He knew of them; no one didn’t. It was a man, with graying hair and a twinkle in his wizened eyes. Next to him was a girl with the
Heartworm
They were there. They may had faded away long ago, but they were always watching. The winter chill seeped through my bones despite the thick layers I wore, and my surroundings were desolate. Silent, serene. The files were nestled within my coat, and the sound of the judge’s hammer rang in my ears. “Death penalty.”
My Mother’s Story
There are over seven billion people on this planet today. Logically, I do not think anyone would want to disregard education. As Victor Hugo rightly said, “he who opens a school door closes a prison”. There are two keywords in this statement that I need to explain before moving on – “school” and “prison”. What
Humans Vs The Earth
“Mom? What happened to our home?” he said. Meet El, a young, innocent baby elephant. “MOM? WHERE ARE YOU?” El screamed. Little did he know, his mom had been killed. Killed by a monster. The monster who had also ruined El’s home in the forest. After walking for a while, El arrived at a strange
“Mom? What happened to our home?” he said. Meet El, a young, innocent baby elephant. “MOM? WHERE ARE YOU?” El screamed. Little did he know, his mom had been killed. Killed by a monster. The monster who had also ruined El’s home in the forest. After walking for a while, El arrived at a strange
He who opens a school door closes a prison door – Victor Hugo
It was a cold and unusual Wednesday morning, some robbers had just been caught, several witnesses gathered round to watch the law enforcement agency ruthlessly drag five able bodied men whose hands have been held together by handcuffs into the police vehicle. I could not but look at the sober faces of these young men
Education: The Key Behind Morality
Crime is rising by the day. There are a lot of people who find their way into prisons in many countries. This sad scenario, especially in Third World Africa, has wrecked havoc as more and more funds and resources are channelled towards finding ways to combat crime. Many societies end up wasting valuable resources in
The Erudite Community
“He, who opens a school door, closes a prison.” – Victor Hugo. “Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt. The maxim “He, who opens a school door, closes a prison,” exemplifies the role of education in human development. Rather than contribute to existing debates, I
Condition of poor animals
Today, we all are running beside our future to make it effective but we have forgotten the present part of our life in which wildlife also exists with us. Today we have every source of comfort and that becomes possible only because of god’s created brain which we have much as compare to other creatures.
Truly Alone
It’s so beautiful. The waves lap gently on the sandy shore. My toes curl. Wet sand squelches through the gaps between my toes. I frown. It’s uncomfortable. A wave glides gently over my feet washing away the sand. The furrow in my brow softens, but it is not completely lifted. Why am I like this?
Defies for a Dependable Listener
It was 11:00 am, when I was pilling up the assertion of the activity report for the given month. Abruptly, the phone rang and I picked it up while compiling my work, but, the punitive though known voice bothered me to end up everything and heed to the unceasing nitpicking query that comes from the
He who opens a school door, closes a prison
When I first looked at this statement I pondered for a moment. Does this mean if you go to school, you stay out of prison? Or if you’re in prison but look at it as a place to learn it is no longer a prison? Does it mean that education unlocks the gates of your